Tag: starting a counselling practice

What If The Boss Won’t Pay?

At a recent workshop at the IAHIP offices, a group of newly and nearly qualified therapists brainstormed their associations with the word “Business.” After the course, I was reflecting further on our discussion and, in particular, on the question of cancellation fees (always a good topic for an animated discussion among therapists). I was thinking about the differences between a therapy scenario and a workplace one.

Imagine the scene. You go for an interview and are accepted for a job. A contract is discussed and agreed, including details about hours and pay. However, when payday comes around, your boss refuses to pay you on the basis agreed. Would you accept that? Probably not.

1673557You’d be pretty miffed, I imagine. You might point to the contract of employment and say, “But we had an agreement.” You would probably be slow to commit yourself fully to continue working for that employer. I can’t imagine an employee feeling empathy for the employer, and pointing to the difficult circumstances they were experiencing as a reason not to expect their day’s pay. Read more

The Old Stories Are Still The Best…

Remember those bedtime stories you loved as a child? Remember how they made you feel warm and comfortable inside, as you knew every word and every twist and turn of the story? Remember how, even though you knew it was coming, even though you knew it was only a story, you still felt the start of fright at Grandmother’s teeth, “all the better to eat you with,” or the giant saying, “I’ll grind his bones to make my bread.”

Ah, the old ones are still the best!My beautiful picture

I was reminded of this during the week, when I was triggered, and I mean really triggered. I found myself back telling one of those old stories again. Maybe you’ve heard it? It was the one about how someone did something bad, and they did it to me, because everyone has always done those awful things to me…Get the picture?

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