Setting and holding firm boundaries is an important aspect of self care. It helps us to mind ourselves in the work, and reminds us that our needs are important too. It is also an important aspect of modelling for our clients. An ability to set and hold boundaries is an important skill in the business of having a therapy practice too, as it gives some priority to the therapist’s needs as well as the clients. If we can’t hold to the contracts we make, with ourselves and with others, we will find it difficult to earn a living as a therapist.
One place in which these boundaries arise is in relation to time. A colleague told me recently of her difficulty getting one particular client to leave at the end of their sessions. She had raised the issue several times with the client, and in supervision, but nothing seemed to work.
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