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Handling Criticism
They say that we find comfort among those who agree with us, and growth among those who don’t.[1] Yesterday, someone close to me criticised me unjustly for something I hadn’t done. I hate that! When the dust had settled, I asked them to acknowledge that I was right and they were wrong. They were unrepentant.…
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Fearful of Putting Yourself Out There?
Many therapists shy away from the idea of promoting themselves. At one of our “Attract More Clients” workshops, my friend and colleague Wei Sim Ho led the group in a discussion of the fears and blocks that come up for them around marketing, and guess what came up? Fears of being judged, of not being good…
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The Support We Don’t See
On Thursday, I couldn’t access one of my email accounts. Friday, I couldn’t make payments online. It could be what a former mentor of mine calls “Mercury Retrograde” which (I think) implies, “Don’t rely on technology today, the Gods are playing.” After trying all the usual work-arounds (I am persistent!), another machine, another web browser,…
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The Big Drop – Have You Thought About A Pension?
Some years ago, one of the financial institutions ran an ad that asked, “Are you ready for the big drop?” The big drop was, of course, the gap between our income before retirement and after retirement. The point being made was that some people have insufficiently provided for their pension. Are you one of those?…
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The Buck Stops Here
Many therapists setting out in practice for the first time have closed their doors and gone back to working for someone else within three years. Not because they’re not good therapists, not because they aren’t helping their clients, but because they had no idea what it takes to run a business. I learnt this lesson…
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Are the Therapist and Client a Good Match?
I have written before on the subject of client and therapist needing to be a good match. (See here) There can be a tendency when first starting out in practice to take any client that comes along, out of fear that there will be no more. That is understandable, but may be a mistake. Some…
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Limiting Beliefs
One of the ways in which we can limit ourselves, whether in the context of our practice, or in life generally, is through our unconscious beliefs about money. Most people are unaware that these beliefs can be running in the background, subtly influencing how we live our lives. Therapists will probably be more aware than…
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Finding Your Voice
My good friend and EFT practitioner, Barbara E Belmont has been blogging recently about fears of various aspects of finding your voice, speaking up and speaking out. (You can read her blog at http://www.barbaraebelmont.com/blog/) As I read what she has to say, I‘m wondering what is it about putting ourselves out there, in whatever way,…
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What Horse Riding Taught Me About Therapy Practice: Part 2
Jumping, Ambivalence and the Power of Making Choices I’m the wimp of our family when it comes to any risk of physical injury. Where my brothers and sisters inherited the “neck or nothing” gene, I seem to have missed out. While they hunted and rode as children, I fell off and got such a scare…
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Feeling Low? (Soap Box Warning)
You’ve heard the saying about the cobbler’s children haven’t you? So many therapists tell me they enjoy what they do. They speak warmly of the growth they see in clients, the tiny surge of excitement when something changes, and the joy of seeing someone move on to better things. However, sometimes after that first rush…